Marital status is an item that interests employers and people around you. Even when registering on some sites, you need to indicate whether you are married. Often, when filling out a resume, you must disclose your marital status. The types of this point are different for representatives of the weak and strong half of humanity. That's why many people get confused when writing a resume, because any mistake can cost them the desired position. For example, divorced men do not know what to write in the “Marital status” column: single or not married? Women can make stupid mistakes too. Let's look at all the nuances of the “marital status” status: types for men and women, documentary and moral subtleties of this item.
Types of marital status
On the legal side, there are several types of marital status. Let's look at each of them:
- Single means that a person has never been married and is not currently in a legal relationship.
- Divorced means that a person was previously married but is not currently married to anyone.
- Married - a person is in a legal relationship that is documented.
- I am in a civil marriage - not an officially legalized marriage, but it means that a man and a woman live together and run a common household. Recently, civil marriage has become especially popular, so this concept was introduced into jurisprudence.
This is the case with marital status, the types of which we discussed above.
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The behavior of users during separations from their partners also attracted the attention of Facebook researchers. It was observed that on the day of a breakup and change of status and for some time after that, the intensity of communication with friends increases by 225%, which indicates the significance of such an event and the search for emotional support. The nature of user posts is also changing, often posts and comments take on a negative connotation, which is associated with the desire to throw out negative emotions and share their experiences with others. Of course, such behavior is quite understandable, because breaking up a relationship is rarely easy and a person wants to get rid of oppressive loneliness and melancholy as soon as possible. And by sharing our emotions with friends, we partially shift our burden onto them, which makes us feel better.
The Internet is something so huge, powerful and meaningless that for some it has become the perfect substitute for life. Andrew Brown
Continuing their study of Facebook users, Adrien Friggieri and Carlos Duke made other interesting observations. Especially for those who are already desperate to find a partner, researchers have identified those US cities where the most singles live. These included Detroit, Los Angeles, New York, Miami and Memphis. But, according to the authors, it is better to look for partners where there are many couples, since in such an environment the desire of single people to arrange their personal lives only increases. Therefore, in search of family happiness, you should go to Colorado Springs, El Paso, Louisville, Fort Worth and San Antonio. Psychologists, commenting on the results of the study, are of a similar opinion.
The positive emotional climate that surrounds happy couples in love also has a positive effect on other people, improving their mood and inspiring them to find their soul mate.
What is the marital status of men?
Men have different marital statuses. For example, he may be married, which means that he is legally married. A man can also be unofficially married while in a civil marriage. Another type of marital status for a representative of the stronger half of humanity is single or not married. Many people believe that these two words have different meanings, but in fact, from a legal point of view, they are simply synonyms. They mean that the young man has never been married. There is also the term "widower" which is used to refer to the fact that a man was previously married, but his wife has passed away.
Now you know what the marital status of representatives of the stronger half of humanity is.
Is marital status important for an employer?
Of course, your marital status plays a role when applying for a job. Moreover, having a family can be both a plus and a minus. With young people who have barely turned twenty years old, everything is clear without words: at this time, most people are just graduating from universities and trying to get on their feet. At the same time, many employers are wary of candidates for a position who have not started a family by the age of thirty, because this fact may mean that they have problems in terms of communication. Implementation in the area of relationships for some employers can be a decisive factor in choosing an employee.
However, the absence of a family means the absence of serious responsibilities and factors that would distract from work. Therefore, many managers prefer that the woman be divorced or single and the man single. Such people will not be distracted by family responsibilities, which means they will be more effective in the office.
In general, it is impossible to guess whether your freedom from marriage will be an advantage or, on the contrary, this fact will undermine your reputation. In any case, it is best to write the truth in your resume, because sooner or later a lie will come true. Moreover, first of all, the employer will evaluate your skills and education and only then will begin to pay attention to secondary factors.
Marital status is complicated Season 1. Relationship Status: Confused/Iliski Durumu: Karisik/(2019)
Description :
The series “Relationship Status: Confused” will attract the attention of those viewers who love funny, intriguing films that make you laugh heartily and worry about the fate of your favorite characters. This film shows the life of young people, each of whom dreams of mutual love, but fate prefers to do otherwise. Between two girls and two young men, love and jealousy are born, doubts and anxiety arise. At first it is not entirely clear who is in love with whom. Ayşegül, a pretty but too shy girl, falls in love with Can Tekin. For her, this young man is ideal. But other girls who want to meet him and spend more than one evening together have the same opinion. Jan has his own fan club. However, this fact no longer brings him joy, because he is unrequitedly in love with the girl Elif. Elif is a stylist and cosmetologist, and influential people in the city turn to her for help. The girl has a lot of male acquaintances, but she doesn’t need anyone except Murat. A young, handsome businessman, Murat, is always surrounded by a crowd of girls. A man without a twinge of conscience can flirt with women, even flirt, but no more, because his soul was touched by the only one of all the girls around him - Aishegul. As can be seen from the plot of the film “Relationship Status: Confused”, there are many young people, but a mutually in love couple does not form. A love polygon – there’s no other way to describe their relationship. And although none of the unwitting participants in this complicated story shows how hard it is for him, they still suffer. Someone will have to pluck up courage and confess their feelings to their chosen one. So who will start first?
How to change your marital status in your passport?
If you want to legally legitimize your relationship with your significant other, first of all you need to submit an application to the registry office. After painting, you will be given a marriage certificate. It is worth remembering: in order to get a marriage stamp in your passport, you need to come with a document confirming this fact to the passport office. If your surname changes, a woman’s passport will have to be completely changed.
During the divorce process, after the official dissolution of the marriage, you need to do the same steps: come to the passport office with a divorce certificate and receive the coveted o or “not married.”
It should be borne in mind that cohabitation in a civil marriage is not documented in any way, because this type of marital status is not considered official.
Marital status is not only legal status
As we have seen, in jurisprudence, marital status is important, the types of which you already know. But in fact, psychologists identify other types of marital status that do not depend on the stamp in the passport:
- An ideal marriage, as understood by relationship experts, is a marriage in which the spouses share both joys and sorrows equally. Responsibility for living together is not shifted to one of the partners, so coexistence becomes comfortable and enjoyable for both.
- Today, a type of marital situation often occurs in which one of the partners is dependent on the other. At the same time, psychologists note that now women are more inclined to take the reins of power into their own hands than representatives of the stronger half of humanity.
- A marriage where the spouses constantly “butt heads”, finding out who is boss in the house. On this basis, quarrels constantly arise that prevent partners from enjoying each other’s company.
- It is also common to find families where husband and wife try too hard to maintain each other's independence. Each of them can live their own interests, and partners are rarely interested in the affairs of their other half. As a result, such an alliance sooner or later collapses.
As we see, from a psychological point of view, marital status can also be different.
A girl from the audience asks for a microphone and tells her story: “I have a problem in my personal life. I am not married, I have no children. There are only relationships that don’t work out, but have lasted for 3.5 years.”
“Is this the first relationship that doesn’t work out,” Oleg Georgievich immediately clarifies, “or was there something similar before this?”
- It happened three times.
– External circumstances are clear. What feelings are you experiencing?
– At the moment – sadness, melancholy, depression, disappointment from relationships. We speak different languages with this person, everyone sees the relationship from their own perspective.
-What is this difference?
– My parents divorced when I was 7 years old. I was raised by my mother. I am very grateful to my parents for the fact that I was not bossed around. The young man’s situation is different, his motto is: “As I said, so it will be!” I am a freedom-loving person, but if a person is dear to me, I am ready to change. But when they don’t listen to my wishes, it’s very painful for me.
– That is, when he demands from you what you should be in a relationship, is it painful for you? But, nevertheless, you endure it for three and a half years. What motivates you to stay in this relationship?
– Fear, because why look for some other relationship if my problems are repeated, and each time it gets worse and worse?
– That is, life itself, the Higher Power, intensifies this problem, because you do not learn some internal lesson that is in it. You said that you are a freedom-loving person and do not tolerate pressure. But it turns out that life again and again sends you into a relationship with a man who puts pressure on you?
- Yes. In this last relationship, the pressure became even greater.
– Every time it arose, how did you feel?
– Disappointment, feeling of instability, lack of faith in the relationship.
– What do you expect?
– From a man I expect care, support, so that I can talk to him as a friend, so that I can be accepted for who I am, without changing me.
– Did you feel a similar attitude from your mother?
- Why am I accepted? Yes.
- That is, you received this from your mother. And from your father?
– You know, even after the divorce, he came to us for 13 years, communicated, showed me attention.
– How did you feel at that time?
– It was a big pain, since he had different women, I was forced to get to know them. I had hysterics, I tried to reconcile them with my mother.
– Did you also feel your mother’s pain? When his relationship didn’t work out, did he come to his mother and tell her about these problems? That is, he kept her close to him, but did not build a deep relationship with her? Those feelings that you experience now, in your situation, there, in childhood, when did you experience them?
“It’s like I’m being torn apart...
– How do you feel in a relationship with a man now, and how does this remind you of what happened then?
– There is no stability and faith that you can build a family. There is a fear that he could change at any moment. At the age of 19, I had a quarrel with my parents, I rejected all the advice they gave me.
– Essentially, you rejected your parents as authorities in family life. “My father found suitors for me, but I said that I didn’t need to force anyone on me, that I would choose myself. And he said that since I don’t want to listen to him, we will stop communicating. I'm offended that he couldn't accept me for who I am. – Did he reject you for your mistakes as a person?
- It turns out so.
Oleg Georgievich sums it up and draws important conclusions from the described situation: “So, Marina told us that in relationships with men she experiences the same emotion again and again. She is waiting to be accepted for who she is, and again and again they do not. And we discovered that there is a primary emotion - this is the expectation from the father that he accept his daughter for who she is. There are certain situations in which these primary problematic feelings arose.
There are things that you hide from yourself, you close yourself off from them because they are painful. I don’t want to look at these situations, I don’t want to be aware of them. We, as a holistic personality, have needs, basic, natural, original desires. For example, receiving love from mother and father and giving love to them. There are various other needs.
Many psychological problems arise when you, having certain basic needs, due to experiences, failures, pain, at some point forbid yourself to feel them. In a sense, this is natural, because when you express them and do not find a response, you experience pain again and again. The displacement mechanism is turned on.
You have forbidden yourself basic feelings, but they exist, a person cannot live without them. So they start looking for workarounds. They go into other areas. Then we see problematic situations where you again and again want to get what you have forbidden yourself. The rejected need manifests itself again and again. You need to accept the right to receive your father's love, for example.
Only with deep inner work can difficult situations on the external plane be resolved.
Video version of the Life Scenarios training is here. An excerpt from the materials of the transcribed version of Oleg Gadetsky’s seminar “Life Scenarios”. (Author of the article – Larisa Kokstova)
conclusions
- There are two types of official marital status: married or married, single or single. Civil marriage, which is so common today, is not an official type of marital status.
- It is extremely important for employers to know whether their potential employee has a family. The “Marital status” column can tell you a lot about a person. However, when writing a resume, you should not lie, because sooner or later the truth will be revealed to the employer.
- Being legally married does not mean being a happy person. Psychologists have identified some relationship patterns that show that spouses do not always get along well with each other.
