What to write to a girl when meeting VKontakte: examples

First word phrase

It is very important that the beginning of correspondence with a girl is as correct as possible.
Why is that? The fact is that ladies, especially beautiful ones, receive many offers to meet each other every day and most of them are simply ignored

That is why you need to initially interest the girl and attract the necessary attention. So, the first word or phrase written in the message is important

The usual "Hello!" few will be surprised. You need to be creative with your first proposal. So, let's look at successful correspondence with girls. Examples of the first phrases will help you build communication with the fairer sex you like:

1. "Hello! Tell me, what will happen to our planet if all the butterflies (cats, dogs) disappear?” That is, you need to ask about what the lady herself likes.
2. “I wonder what can make such a beautiful girl happy?”
3. "Hello! I’m asking a business question: tell me, what modeling agency do you work for? Do I want to send my little sister (niece) there?” This is how you can start a conversation with beautiful ladies.

How and what to correspond with a stranger on VK and other social networks

A properly started dialogue is a guarantee of success.
After all, if you fail at the start, then the relationship with the girl is unlikely to shine. We need to start with what we shouldn’t write about. You shouldn’t start communication with the banal: “Hello! How are you?" and add beauty, stunning, charming and all that other stuff. She will simply ignore such a message. You have to understand: hundreds of guys write the same thing. Well, it’s already boring!

Interesting: you don’t need to invent a bicycle either. Everything has already been thought out in advance and laid out on the shelves.

All you have to do is use:

In order to understand what to chat about on VK and other networks with a girl, stand in her place. Look at yourself from the outside.

1. First, she must know who you are.
2. Secondly, what do you need from her?
3. And thirdly, why her?

That is, in your message, the girl should see the answers to all these questions.

Examples

So you found out that the girl you like is helping animals. Overexposure of cats or dogs, placement of them with new owners. And this is a reason to get acquainted or even meet. It all depends on the situation, you just need to find a reason.

For example, write to a girl on VK and help shelter a kitten who, poor thing, was starving on the street. And you, unfortunately, do not have the opportunity to take him with you. Just before adopting a stray kitten, you should make sure that it is not sick and will not give your lover ringworm. Then you can forget about the relationship.

Important: to understand where it’s best to start a conversation, you don’t have to think about it day and night. It’s enough to see what a girl is interested in

And, if you have something to say, then you can safely start a dialogue.

Questions

This does not apply to “Hi!
How are you?". A girl receives thousands of such questions a day from other guys she knows. Therefore, it’s worth thinking: maybe you can cook something bright and original. Get creative, or something. To do this, we find out the range of her interests. Yet again. To understand, the question is which topic will hook a girl the most. For example, you found out that the lady of your heart loves to read books. So you can start the dialogue with the question: “I'm going to become a famous writer, so I'm writing a book about what women want. Can you tell me?"

Jokes

This is a rather slippery topic. Because everyone's concept of humor is different.

If you are a fan of dark humor, then a girl will definitely not appreciate such a joke. Therefore, think 100 times about how you are going to joke.

For example, you can joke like this: “Hey, I haven’t taken a pickup course and I don’t know how to seduce a girl. I don't know what to write about. I like hedgehogs."

Reasons for getting into the “friend zone”

And even if you are very tactful and sweet with a girl, you can get on her list of friends.
She will love you, but not the way you would like. And the relationship will not develop in the way we would like. To prevent this from happening, it is necessary to analyze the reason for this. Why can a girl put you in the friend zone:

• Extra pressure. You can’t artificially escalate the situation and do what the girl doesn’t want. For example, go in for a kiss, openly hug and allow yourself to do something like that. Nobody will like this. You will want to run away from such a guy at the first opportunity, because his hints are very clear and understandable.
• Boredom. The girl simply has nothing to talk to you about. You're not interesting. On dates, it’s not enough to just look at your crush, you need to say something else. Read books, or something. Expand your horizons.
• Too much frankness. Yes, to conquer a girl you need to be a sincere person in many ways. But this does not concern too personal topics. Especially something that concerns either your health or simply something that is unpleasant to listen to. For example, the lady of your heart does not need to know that you have nail fungus and how unpleasant it is. Well, that’s “ugh”! It’s better not to talk about such topics. Tell your therapist about this.
• The girl does not feel interest in herself. And this can be intimidating. You're not flirting, you're not trying to seduce. Perhaps there is also talk about nail fungus. Then the question is: what are you waiting for? Relationships? No, friend, cool down! You need to show your desire to be with her, but carefully. Express interest and show it in every possible way.
• Touching. But here, look at point 1 and don’t overdo it. You might accidentally touch your arm or shoulder. Yes, unobtrusively.
• Fear. Fear of scaring the girl away. And she will feel it. Be yourself.
• Alpha male. Don't talk about how cool you are. And how many girls have you had? It will be off-putting. Boast about it among your friends. The same heartthrobs.
• Don't pretend to be ideal. Don't try to look better in her eyes than you are. Any girl needs a real man, not a fantasy prince from a fairy tale in shining trousers. Be yourself, even if you have minor flaws, don't try desperately to hide it. Will not work. Well, or it will work out, but in the friend zone, as an alternate airfield.
• They're just taking advantage of you. Yes, this happens. Not all girls are decent. Some pursue only their own selfish goals - to receive support, both moral and material. Such a person will not allow you to get close to another girl, she will simply attract you to her again, under any pretext. And you will come running like a submissive dog. The way out of such a relationship is simple - you need to stop communication in the bud and not allow yourself to be taken advantage of. All!
• Sympathy. Or rather, its absence. The girl just doesn't like YOU. Like a man. Nothing will help here. Humble yourself.

Important : do not focus only on the object of your sympathy. Don't spend all your free time with her. Make it clear that you have interests and hobbies in your life.

How to properly structure a conversation with a girl on VKontakte

Search for a girl. When searching for a girl, analyze not only her photos, but also the information on her page. If the photo shows only the girl’s face, this may indicate a lack of her figure, so to avoid mistakes, choose girls who will have full-length photographs. Also check if you have at least something in common, otherwise you will simply be bored and have nothing to talk about.

Start of dating. Don't start your acquaintance with hackneyed and boring phrases. The more interesting, fun, creative, and romantic you are in your approach, the more likely it is that you will not be refused. Just don’t overdo it, everything should be in moderation, as they may not understand you.

Making contact! If, after all, the girl has agreed to meet you, you should not bombard her with questions and intellectual conversations. Chat about books, movies, TV series, study or work. Make jokes, it will help maintain a positive environment in communication. Tell us about ridiculous situations that have happened in your life.

Discreet and intriguing. Just don’t report on yourself about your entire life at once, otherwise you risk that she will become bored and you will have nothing to talk about in the future. Try to alternate between telling stories about yourself and asking the girl questions. You shouldn’t ask questions about her personal life, don’t joke rudely with her, don’t use obscene language when communicating - all this will ruin her opinion of you.

If you want to find out in more detail how to start communicating with a girl on VK, this is what we will talk about in this article. Just don’t forget that you are an individual and using other people’s photos and incorrect information about yourself can play a cruel joke in the future and prevent you from meeting a girl in your personal life.

How to understand that a person likes you?

This is what happened. You've made up your mind. Wrote first. I found a topic for conversation. And it seems like the dialogue has already started. But there are doubts: does the girl like you? How can we understand this? Even if she answers and keeps up the conversation, this does not mean that she likes the guy. So, based on these signs, we can conclude that the girl liked you:

• During the correspondence, the passion hints that he would not mind meeting in real life.
• She answers immediately after your question.
• The correspondence becomes active. The girl does not leave the dialogue under various pretexts.
• The girl dilutes the correspondence with emoticons. She can also like your posts or photos.
• There is a hint of a relationship.
• Quality of correspondence. Yes, the lady can answer all your questions and messages, but the answers can be formal. They are monosyllabic and carry no hidden meaning. If you like me, then this doesn’t happen.
• Flirting. Well, everything is clear here.
• Stability. It is difficult to draw conclusions from one correspondence. Because a girl can answer out of politeness, but the second time she can tell you to go to hell.

In conclusion, we can say that communication with the opposite sex is not as difficult as it might seem in advance. You just need to be yourself, because falsehood is very noticeable. And yet, it is advisable to follow several recommendations.

To get started, upload a good profile photo. Of course, you don’t have to have Apollo’s appearance, but you also have to look nice and neat. Fill it out. Give more information about yourself, hobbies and interests. It’s also worth finding out about the girl’s interests in order to start productive communication that will continue.

What topics can you talk about with a girl?

Before you ran into this article, you probably already decided for yourself in what exact situation you don’t know what to talk about with a girl, but if not, then here are a few of them:

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If you fall into one of these categories, then my friend you are on the right track and this article will be extremely useful for you. Just so as not to have to wait and let you know that this is not another article with a lot of “water”, here is an introductory exercise for you to understand how to learn how to talk with girls, I give it to my students at training when their communication with girls suffers.

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Exercise “Delusion Generator” with instructions:

1. Choose a monosyllabic object at home: eraser, disk, fork, spoon;
2. Open a chat in Whatsup or another similar messenger, having previously agreed with a friend to whom you will dictate it;
3. For 5 minutes without stopping, you begin to describe the object that is in front of you, come up with different stories, fables about it, just the main thing is to wait 5 minutes;
4. Send it to a friend and listen to it yourself, it will be very disgusting to listen to yourself! But after doing this trick 3-4 times, the speech becomes clearer;
5. Ask a friend for criticism, tell your friend to criticize your entry as much as possible.

The article has just begun, and you are already armed with something useful, it will only get more interesting, follow the headlines!

Tell the girl where it would be cool to go

What to talk about: let’s say right away - don’t delay. Kilometers of messages, especially meaningful ones like “Good morning” and “Sweet dreams”, are not needed by either you or her. Either you take her out on a date in the first few days (well, at most, in the first couple of weeks), or you turn into an incomprehensible “pen pal”. If you are not very sociable and do not feel confident face-to-face, for the first meeting it is better to choose not a cafe, but a place where you will need to do something: an amusement park, an ice skating rink, a cinema, an excursion, an exhibition, a master class for dancing - what you have enough money and imagination for.

Warning: what you definitely shouldn’t write about right off the bat is sex. Yes, you may have seen in films or read somewhere how cool macho men act using the method of Lieutenant Rzhevsky and the girls happily agree... But the authors, apparently, forgot to add “The trick was performed by a professional.”

4. You go to the same gym, the same skate rink, or the same club, but it doesn’t go beyond “hello and bye.”

Examples of starting a conversation on a social network

Let's look at examples of what you can talk about with a girl on VK. First of all, you should cast the fishing rod correctly: “Hello. I saw your page in the poetry group

Got my attention. It’s immediately obvious that smart and beautiful - in one bottle

I wanted to talk to you and get to know you better. Especially interesting, who are your favorite writers? I myself am interested in the works of Pushkin and Yesenin. A banal choice, but not Brodsky (although he is also good).”

Such a message will immediately attract women's attention. She will definitely read it

However, you should not repeat it word for word. Not all girls are interested in poems. You need to understand the basic rule - you can captivate a beauty with the help of a topic that is close to her.

It is worth studying some correspondence with girls on VK. Example of unsuccessful communication:

• P.: Hello. How are you?
• D.: Hello. Fine.
• P.: I see.

The dialogue is wrong. First of all, a banal start. Many young ladies leave such messages unanswered, especially if they are popular with the opposite sex. Secondly, the guy immediately stopped writing. He did not try to take the conversation in a different direction, to get to know his interlocutor better. You can't expect a woman to make the first move. You need to be persistent, but not overuse it. Perhaps today the interlocutor had a tragedy and has no desire to communicate with strangers.

Here are examples of how to correspond with a girl correctly. Example 1:

• P.: Hello. I see that everything is wonderful in life.
• D.: Why did you decide that?
• P: A beauty with such a beautiful smile cannot have any difficulties. All doors are open for her.
• D: Good to hear. But everyone has problems.
• P.: I hope that everything is fine in life anyway. The weather is beautiful outside. The sun melted the snow. The cold is receding. No one says the phrase: “Winter is coming.” She left for a long time. The rains will end soon and you can swim in the warmth.
• D.: I see that your interlocutor is a real romantic.
• P: Of course. I learned from articles about how to properly communicate with a girl online.
• D.: Funny. Everything is really good with a sense of humor.

The guy caught the attention of his interlocutor with his complimentary eyeliner. Such “hooks” should be used regularly during a conversation.

They draw you into a romantic web and put you in the right mood. This is a good example of how to communicate with a girl on VK and make her like you.

There are other examples of how to start a conversation with a girl on social networks. Example 2:

P.: Good afternoon. D.: It’s not a fact that he is so kind. P: I wonder why? I always thought that beautiful people have much less problems

I don’t experience any difficulties in life at all. D.: There are no problems with a sense of self-importance. I approve

And it’s difficult because it’s Monday. Hard day. P.: Are everyday working hours stressful? I try to enjoy everyday days. I pay attention only to the positive aspects. Life is much more pleasant, especially if the salary at work is good.

How to start a conversation

Guys who decide to meet often think for a long time about how to start a correspondence with a pretty girl on VKontakte. Possible examples: asking about her interests, making a compliment, making a joke, or asking for help.

Say hello and ask about her interests

In the first message you should avoid banal phrases: “Hello. How are you?". It is better to write a short text of 2-3 sentences in which the author says hello, says his name and indicates the purpose of the letter. It's good if interests coincide. Then you can discuss together a new track from your favorite band or a book you’ve read.

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If a girl knits, embroiders, draws, makes soap or clay crafts, then you should praise her work and ask about the process of making the item. You can even place a small order as a gift for your mother or sister. There will be an extra reason to write to the girl again. If a young lady is interested in sports, then it would be useful to ask about her successes, medals, and training.

Make a compliment

There is no need to say beautiful words about her plump lips or beautiful eyes. You should also not focus on the smooth curves of the body and the wasp waist. The girl will decide that the young man was seduced by her attractive appearance and wants to make acquaintance with her out of hunting interest. After messages with questionable content, guys are usually blacklisted. It’s better to give a compliment about your appearance in general: “You are special,” “I have never met such charming girls as you.”

Make a joke

If a guy likes to joke, and his friends consider him the life of the party and appreciate his sense of humor, then you can use this strong side when meeting a lady on VK. But the joke should be kind, not offending anyone, preferably without political overtones. It is better if the witticism is his own composition, and not spied on the Internet. Girls love funny guys who can notice humorous notes in everyday life.

Ask for advice or help

Based on the interests described in her profile, you can determine what area the girl is knowledgeable in and what topic is best for her to ask a question about. If she likes to read, then it is advisable to ask her opinion regarding any novel, to find out why it hooked her. If she has a lot of beautiful pictures on her profile, then ask what camera she uses and what she recommends when choosing equipment. Another great option is to ask for help with choosing a gift for your sister or mother.

Girl's Choice

Often young people are embarrassed to approach a girl on the street to get acquainted. If you have difficulty making eye contact or are intimidated by dating in public places, try using the Internet. Use ingenuity, perseverance, and a sense of humor when choosing beautiful phrases to introduce. You are guaranteed success, you will forget about loneliness

After all, it is very important for a person to have a soul mate

If you don't have a girl in mind, then look through the profiles of several beauties. To do this, use the search. Choose a friend who lives in your city. Then it will be easier to meet. Of course, love knows no boundaries. But distance can be a serious obstacle to your relationship. You should like the girl in appearance or have common interests with you.

When studying profiles, pay attention to the user’s page. To find a real girl, you need to make sure that this is not a fake page.

If there are enough photos in the profile, they contain the same person, then this increases the chance of finding a normal and adequate woman. From the VKontakte wall you can determine what a person is like. Look into the groups the girl is a member of. It will be easier for you to find common interests and choose a topic for conversation.

Perhaps you have mutual friends. Then you can find out from your comrades with whom you are going to communicate. You need to look at the marital status. If a girl is engaged, married, dating or in love, then there is no need to ruin her personal life. It’s “actively searching” - you’re on the right track. If the column is not filled in, there is a chance that the beautiful lady is available.

Your application form must also be filled out accordingly. Curious people will definitely look at your page and get acquainted with your entries, hobbies and occupation. Style it accordingly. Post statuses and pictures that reflect your principles of life. Add music and videos to your profile

It's easier to attract attention this way. There should be no vulgarity or vulgarity on your wall in order for a pleasant impression to be made of you.

The girl will definitely look at your list of friends. If there are a lot of women in it, they won’t want to communicate with you. A woman will not miss the opportunity to test your literacy. Watch your speech. Illiterate people are not of particular interest. Reviewing your profile is necessary to make sure that you are not a womanizer and a person who only has drinks and cigarettes on his mind.

Rules of communication

To get a girl to talk on VK, you need to follow simple rules for communicating with strangers on social networks:

Be original and not boring.

It’s worth forgetting about such questions6 “How are you? What are you doing? ” and other platitudes. Find one or two good topics for conversation and develop them.

Don’t always be online, don’t rush to answer if the question is not asked in a dialogue.

If a guy is always online, it means he has nothing better to do than practice the intricacies of pickup. Girls are more interested in men who are busy with work or an exciting hobby.

Obsession is the first enemy of relationships with women.

Turn on your natural charm; if you fail to get the girl to talk in 1-2 conversations, she remains silent and does not support the dialogue, you need to retreat. If a woman is interested in the interlocutor, she will write a couple of questions herself to continue the conversation.

Don't ask too many questions.

Delve into the essence of the answer to one of them and seek out details, develop the topic. If you throw in hundreds of interrogative sentences and don’t listen to the answers, the girl will be disappointed in her interlocutor and leave.

Use a sense of humor.

But don't be rude and send it. Jokes should be on topic and used in moderation. Start by making fun of yourself. This is great for girls.

Be natural.

Don't pretend to be a macho or alpha male. Is not cool.

There are no uniform laws on how to properly communicate with girls on VK. The advice is general and advisory in nature. In real correspondence, act according to the situation. For example, if you feel that a girl is generally taciturn, you can ask her a bunch of questions and the interlocutor will like it.

Rules for building dialogue on social networks

The Internet allows people to liberate themselves. Everyone creates a unique page, their own little world. In networks, anyone is whoever they want to be.

The conversation must be conducted tactfully. The guy enters the minefield of correspondence with the young lady. You cannot be rude or use abstruse phrases.

You should communicate with a woman as with a good friend to whom you have long been accustomed. The dialogue must be natural. If the interlocutor shows interest in the messages, then everything will work out in the right way.

There are a lot of articles on the Internet about how to communicate with a girl. Many offer template statements to start a conversation. They can be used, but it is better to choose the words yourself. People are individuals and each has their own communication style. If the interlocutor sees that they are communicating with her “according to the formula,” this will push her away and the guy will have to look for a new girlfriend.

Advice from psychologists

Psychologists advise keeping communication as casual as possible. Often people on the Internet create an image that does not correspond to reality. Because of this, after a date, communication stops. A person must remain himself. You cannot try on other people's masks. You need to conquer a girl with your own qualities, and not someone else’s.

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Communication with a friend on VKontakte can last a long time. It is important to learn how to talk with any interlocutor. There is no universal formula for success. Only by getting to know different girls can you understand what to talk to them about.

If you are antisocial and don’t know how to communicate, then it’s time to loosen up. Start with dialogues with family and friends. You will soon become a skilled conversationalist.

Conversations on social networks can liberate a person and make him brighter. It’s easy to figure out what to talk about with a girl in contact. You can have a conversation about anything.

What to write to a girl when meeting her

So, the first message should be original and creative. You need to avoid vulgarities and all sorts of sexual innuendos, so as not to end up on the blacklist of unreliable users. Even if you are a pick-up guy, you don't need to immediately demonstrate the true purpose of the communication.

We offer the following phrases for meeting people as a greeting and to start a conversation:

1. “Hello, Katerina. I saw you in the group (the name of the community the girl is a member of). I wanted to get to know you because I’m also fascinated by this problem. Yes, my name is Sergei! The first message demonstrates common hobbies and interests.
2. “Svetlana, hello! My sister’s birthday is in a couple of days, and I still don’t know what to give her. I decided to ask girls her age on VK what gifts they would like best. Maybe you can help? The first message indicates a request for help, and young girls love to give advice.
3. "Hello, Maria. My name is Alexander, and I am interested in the work of the group (the name of the musical group). I saw a video file online that you posted in the community (name of the group on VK), and I want to ask, did you go okay? I’m planning to attend their concert, but I don’t know whether to go or not...” It’s a good option in which you immediately point out common interests in the first message and ask for advice.
4. “Greetings, lovely stranger. In today's dream I saw a girl who very, very much resembles you. And suddenly today I met you on VK. Do you believe in such coincidences? Although some conditions are not observed here, they are rules, so that they can be broken occasionally. This first message also has the right to "life" because it shows your romantic mood.
5. "Hello, Elena. It seems like you were the one I met yesterday in the city center. In real life you are even more beautiful than in your wonderful photographs.” In such a first message, you express pleasant words, and also “cast a bait”, forcing the girl to find out where you could see her.

Of course, these are only approximate phrases for dating, unique examples and guidelines that you can use to start a conversation and start communicating online. Perhaps you have more effective options for greeting and competent pickup in your arsenal.

Question options

It’s not worth communicating only on abstract topics. If you manage to start communicating with a young man, ask him the right questions. This way you will be able to get to know your interlocutor well, but only on the condition that you listen to him carefully.

If you are incompetent in some areas, offer to talk about something else.

Girls cannot always immediately understand how to speak to their interlocutor and what to communicate with him about.

We offer several guiding questions that will help you get to know a man better:

1. Do you believe in the transmigration of souls? Who would you like to become in your next life?
2. What do you do in your free time? How do you like to relax?
3. What is closer to you - villages or big cities? Would you like to live in an apartment or a private house?
4. Which country or city abroad would you like to visit?
5. Which religious movement is closer to you?

Don't be intrusive so that he doesn't get bored. When asking questions, listen carefully to what the young man answers. This will help you get to know your chosen one better and decide how suitable he is for you. If your views on life are too contradictory, think about whether you need to continue communicating in a romantic way.

What to talk about with a girl on VK - best topics for conversation

There are several topics of conversation that can always be interesting to talk about with a girl. For example:

Hobbies

You can find out what a girl is like, what she does, her hobbies and how she spends her free time. And also make a conclusion for yourself whether this person is interesting to you at all.

Weather

A traditional theme, especially among the British. In some situations it's nice to talk about the weather.

Trips

Sport

Perhaps the girl is involved in some kind of sport. Then this will be a good topic for conversation. Provided that you also like the sport.

Relationship

Here you can learn about the girl’s views on life. How she sees her relationships with the opposite sex.

Pets

Many people have a dog, cat, hamster, etc. at home. A relaxed and fun topic.

Sex

There is no way without him. Of course, you shouldn’t talk about sex from the very beginning of dating. But in the future, this is a very good topic for learning about a girl’s sexual preferences. Show that you are not embarrassed to talk about it. Also, such conversations have a positive effect on quick seduction.

A simple example of a conversation on VK:

Now you know how to communicate correctly and what you can talk about with a girl on VK. Good luck!

Before you start conquering girls' hearts, carefully check your photo album, because the first thing a girl will want to do is see what kind of person asked to be her interlocutor. It is desirable that the photographs are of high quality and reflect your character.

Don't be afraid to be yourself. The worst thing is to start a correspondence with a girl with a lie, masquerading as someone else’s photo.

Also take a closer look at her: what photographs, comments, gifts, etc. she has. The best way to start a conversation is to send an unusual gift or a picture with coffee and buns and the inscription “Happy morning!”, for example. Or a photo of flower fields with the caption: “I want to give them to you.”

What to do next

Having received the coveted answer to their greeting, many guys do not understand how to proceed correctly. If a guy is not in the mood for long-term communication, but has decided to meet a beautiful young lady to seduce her, then there is no point in corresponding for a long time. You need to get your chosen one’s phone number and invite her on a date.

However, the girl may not agree to meet with a practically unfamiliar young man the first time. There is no need to put pressure on her. The guy is advised to wait a few days and then repeat the invitation again. Having gotten to know the man better, the woman will give a positive answer.

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For a guy in love with serious intentions, it doesn’t matter how long the correspondence with a girl on social media takes. networks. It is important to find common ground, then there will be no difficulties with choosing topics for conversation. You can send her cute pictures and poems that she will appreciate. Or share with her new musical releases, the latest news from the world of cinema and sports. A girl, seeing an intelligent, interesting interlocutor in a guy, will want to meet him in real life.